The Enthusiasts Guide from “Yes” to “I Do”

Host Leah Longbrake is pulling back the veil to bring you honest advice and creative ideas from those in the wedding industry. From the Engagement to the Honeymoon, get all the details you need from wedding and event experts on how to make it your best day ever!

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Real Bride Bianca Wulwick: How She Planned Her Dream Las Vegas Wedding and Elopement Advice

Real Bride Bianca Wulwick: How She Planned Her Dream Las Vegas Wedding and Elopement Advice

Real Bride and host of the podcast Please Don’t Kick Me Out, Bianca Wulwick, shares how she made her dream of having a Las Vegas elopement come true- Elvis impersonator and all! She gives her advice for planning a destination wedding or elopement, why you should really consider who you invite, and how Drew Barrymore made her cry on national television (watch it HERE!).

Bianca’s podcast Please Don’t Kick Me Out is all about imposter syndrome. Host Leah Longbrake was recently a guest on her show discussing her perspective on the subject, and shares some of her personal experiences. Listen here: https://pleasedontkickmeout.com/please-dont-kick-me-out-episode-70-featuring-content-creator-leah-longbrake/

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Get to Know Bianca:

Bianca is a former digital marketer turned podcaster, who took the pandemic as a great gift instead of negative. I have always been a unique person, and have felt that I needed to change bits of myself to fit in. I currently reside in San Diego, California with my husband, and Cavalier King Charles named Bourdain. When I am not podcasting, I am obsessed with trash TV, my Peloton, Disney, and Drag Queens. I am passionate about pop culture, equality for all humans, and being a military spouse.




This has been a production of Evergreen Podcasts. A special thank you to Executive Producers David Moss, Gerardo Orlando, Production Director Brigid Coyne and Audio Engineer Eric Koltnow.

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Leah Longbrake:
Bianca, I am so excited to have you on the show today.

Bianca Wulwick:
I am so excited, too. I'm always continually honored that people let me scream into a microphone for a living.

Leah Longbrake:
Well, I'm honored, I guess, to be on your show. For those not familiar, tell us about Please Don't Kick Me Out.

Bianca Wulwick:
Please Don't Kick Me Out is a podcast about imposter syndrome. And I loved your episode, our episode when we were talking. I'm excited to share it with my listeners and obviously, for your listeners to learn about me, but it's the feeling of not fitting in. Imposter syndrome is very much a human emotion, like walking into a room and feeling like, "Oh man, everyone's smarter than me, or more successful than me." So my podcast really focuses on imposter syndrome, how people have felt it in their careers and in their life, and how they've combated, and then also successes and failures. We even talk about things all over the map because I'm super nostalgic and I love pop culture, so I love to get inside my guests' brains. So yeah, that's what I do. Please Don't Kick Me Out.

Leah Longbrake:
Yeah. It's so fun. And thank you again for having me on to talk about my experiences and how so many couples that are planning their wedding or have been married kind of feel like imposters because they didn't want what their family wanted to do or what society tells them to do, but they did it anyways.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah.

Leah Longbrake:
And it didn't make them feel as great as it should have for such an important day.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah, absolutely. And I mean, that kind of lends into my own kind of journey with my wedding, as well.

Leah Longbrake:
Well, that's a perfect segue but for everyone listening, the link for Please Don't Kick Me Out and our episode will be in the show notes, so make sure you check it out. Now, as we're going to get into your story, we have to start off with the proposal. How did your now husband propose to you?

Bianca Wulwick:
Okay, so my husband is so cheeky. I always told him when I knew he was the one and he knew I was the one and we're going to get married, but I also have to let your listeners know that he's in the military, so we were kind of on an accelerated timeline because he was going to be having to move eventually. It kind of put our relationship in hyper speed but also, he was in his late twenties or thirties or early thirties and then I was in my late twenties and I knew it was going to be him. So basically, I told him, "I really want a Tiffany's ring." So we would go to the mall and he would always bring me to the Tiffany store and have me try on various rings. And what he was doing was getting my ring size and then trying to figure out if I liked the ring he'd picked out because he'd already ordered it.

Leah Longbrake:
So smart.

Bianca Wulwick:
Right? I like people so I was happy to be there. I felt like an imposter inside Tiffany's, I'll tell you what. I didn't even know that he'd pick this ring out. I didn't even know that he'd ordered it. Then I told him, all I told him was, "I just want to have my nails done before you do this. Just let me know, give me a clue. Let me know." What he wanted to do was propose to me, there's a place in Denver which is where I'm from, it's like a clock tower, sometimes it's a cabaret bar on downtown, and he wanted to be up in the clock tower with a pizza on one knee and propose that way.

Bianca Wulwick:
That's not what happened. So the ring came in and he was convinced I was going to find it. The following day, we had had breakfast with my parents and my parents had come to town and I didn't know that this was my dad getting asked for permission or anything like that. I just figured my parents were coming up to see the apartment, I didn't really know. I don't even know if it was coincidental that they were there, to be honest. But we had breakfast, my parents left, they love early breakfast and they got there at seven in the morning, so we went to this restaurant called Snooze. And then after that, there was an Oktoberfest, so it was in September and my husband was like, "Hey, we should go down towards the Oktoberfest, it's a really nice day."

Bianca Wulwick:
And it was a gorgeous day so we walked down there and we both had a beer stein and I was eating a turkey leg. And he was like, "Today's the day. I'm proposing. I'm proposing. I'm doing it. I'm doing it." He was convinced. So we walked back to the apartment, and this is where it gets a little TMI.

Bianca Wulwick:
The beer hit me, the turkey leg, I was like, "I have to go to the bathroom. Oh no." It went from being a situation to being an emergency situation. So I made Scott, we went to our downtown apartment and I know there's a bathroom. I'm like, "What's the bathroom called?" Trying to get in to the first floor for a bathroom and he goes up the elevator. So I'm in the bathroom, almost didn't make it, just feeling horrible, just, "Oh no." And he's upstairs sweating bullets, grabbing the ring from the top shelf of the closet. So I get upstairs and I'm kind of in a bad mood now because I'm like, "God, that didn't feel good. I'm sure there's a second wave of whatever just happened." I get to the bedroom and I'm trying to clean myself up and stuff and he's just waiting patiently in the bedroom. I sit down on the bed and I'm throwing my purse off, he's like, "Babe." I'm like, "What?" I was not really there.

Bianca Wulwick:
And then I look up and he's on his knee and I blur my eyes. I'm like, "What's happening? What's going on?" He's kind of got tears in his eyes and he's like, "I just want to spend forever with you." I want to eat turkey legs and do all of this and I just felt this was more perfect. And then I start crying, then I call my parents and they're like, "Wait, what? We were just there."

Leah Longbrake:
Aww.

Bianca Wulwick:
I suppose when I had been in the bathroom, because actually, I guess my parents were at ... my parents had been, something ... I was dropping my car off, my parents had gone up to the apartment or something like that. So my parents had seen the apartment and he asked my dad's permission there, showed them the ring and I was doing something. Then we went and got beer steins. So yeah, that was my proposal.

Leah Longbrake:
Aw, that is so cute, though. For a moment that you thought it would be so crappy, pun intended, and so beautiful.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah. My nails were not done, they were blank. I have a photo of my ring because it's a really beautiful, very simple ring and I love it. And in the band it's inscribed, it says, "My beautiful girl," because we love City and Colour a lot. One of the only concerts - well, we've gone to a few - but one of the only concerts and the best concert we've gone to together was City and Colour. And he has a song called 'The Girl,' and one of the lyrics is "my beautiful girl." I guess he really was trying to propose in some immaculate, crazy way. He also contacted City and Colour and then they were like, "Yeah, we'll do your proposal for like $10,000." He was like, "Ah, hm." So turkey legs and a stein it was.

Leah Longbrake:
So did you wait to post photos on social media once you got your nails done or did you just say screw it and do it?

Bianca Wulwick:
No, I just went, "Screw it!" Because honestly, I was excited, I was happy about it. I feel like it was always weird for people because I considered myself his fiancée, but he hadn't asked and I knew it's weird when you know that you want to be with that person and you know it's coming, so you're just kind of, "I don't know." So people knew it was coming, but then the weirder thing is, once we were engaged, we were on hyper speed to get me on his page, too because it's a big thing. It's a lot more complex in the military to get on this page, too, then I have base access, get my cards, move all my accounts and stuff. When we finally celebrated and had the wedding wedding that I wanted, I was already married. I was engaged for maybe two weeks.

Leah Longbrake:
That's what I was going to ask you. Between the proposal and y'all eloped, what was that timeline?

Bianca Wulwick:
Okay. So he proposed to me on the 24th of September and my parents had my birth certificate and my social security card and I needed those. So we went to my parents' house and picked them up and while I was there, I picked out the wedding dress, as well. I wasn't married when I picked up and it's also, people think of sacrilegious to have my husband there, but I didn't find it weird. I can talk about the dress in a little bit. I went to my parents' house, grabbed my social security card and my birth certificate, and then, I think I just started a new job and I told them on Friday, "Hey, I know this is not good, but my husband has the day off and we're going to get married and go to the social security office and do all these things." So made it sound very unsexy but we had an appointment at nine in the morning at the Denver courthouse, and then we got breakfast burritos and then we went to the social security office and my last name was changed and it was all within a couple of hours. Then we went and sat at a rooftop bar and watched the sunset and drank wine.

Leah Longbrake:
Aww.

Bianca Wulwick:
It was a very sweet day.

Leah Longbrake:
Yeah, absolutely. So then comes Vegas.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah.

Leah Longbrake:
From the rooftop to Vegas, what are we talking? How much time?

Bianca Wulwick:
So that was October 13th which is, funny enough, the Navy's birthday, which we didn't choose that on purpose. It's also Friday the 13th, which is kind of funny, too. So that happened, and then the anniversary of our first date was the day that we had a ceremony in Vegas. I had told my husband from day one, I want to be married by an Elvis. It's my dream. I don't want a wedding, I just want to elope. That's what I want, I want to be married by an Elvis. And he was like, "Dope. Let's do it."

Bianca Wulwick:
It's always been my fantasy. It's always been my dream wedding and, as a kid, my parents always told me, "Elope, elope. Don't have a wedding. Don't have a wedding because it just becomes a day for everyone else." And I'm so grateful that I was married already so that they couldn't take that special moment from me because when you have a wedding, it can feel so overwhelming. You're trying to please everyone around you, even though mine was tiny, kitschy, and funny. There was still a lot that went into it, even though it was, at the end of the day, a 10-minute ceremony in and out.

Leah Longbrake:
It was so meaningful for you.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah. Yeah.

Leah Longbrake:
So how many people were there in Vegas, then? Was it just you guys and your parents?

Bianca Wulwick:
I wanted it to be just my husband and I, because my parents didn't go to my wedding. They have no interest, they didn't go. Which people find so bizarre. For me, I don't know. It was just funny because then his parents were like, "Well, we have to be there." At first, I was very adverse to that. "I don't know if I want to do that. That doesn't make really much sense." Because I've always had it in my head, it's just me and the person. Then I was thinking about it and I was like, "Well, he's the first one getting married out of his siblings, so fine. They can come."

Bianca Wulwick:
Also, they live super close and I was really actually grateful that they did come because his mom and I had kind of started out on rocky footing and were not really at a good place. Now she and I are at a great place, but she overstepped a lot of boundaries in our relationship, like wanting me to take her ring. And Scott was like, "No." And then, just a bunch of stuff, she kind of overstepped and I think the wedding and us doing it the way we wanted and then eventually letting them be included, I think she kind of accepted. They're going to do what they want, like my input doesn't matter.

Leah Longbrake:
But she probably had that dream or they probably had that dream of the traditional ...

Bianca Wulwick:
Yes. She really wants that, and it's just not even hit. My sister-in-law's non-conventional like me, as well, so it's not really us.

Leah Longbrake:
Yeah.

Bianca Wulwick:
Basically, stick to your guns. Yeah.

Leah Longbrake:
Did you, instead of, and we talked about with imposter syndrome, caving to other people's ideals?

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah. Well, you asked how many people. So it was my mother-in-law, my father-in-law, my sister-in-law. My brother-in-law was not there. And then her husband, so that's four people of Scott's family. So that's four. And then I invited, we had neighbors in our apartment building. They came, so that's two more.I don't even talk to either of them anymore. And then two girlfriends came, as well. Don't talk to either of them based on this wedding. And then, so that's four more. My friend, Ian drove four hours to see the wedding, drop off a guy [inaudible 00:13:02] and then drive back to LA, so he's one person. And then my best friend and her husband and she's my photographer. So I had not that many people.

Leah Longbrake:
20, maybe?

Bianca Wulwick:
Maybe less than 20. And it was fun, silly. What I find weirder is that I don't really talk. Oh. And then Scott's friend came singularly so it's probably like under 20, and he doesn't even talk to him anymore. So it's kind of weird.

Leah Longbrake:
Yeah. What happened with the falling out with his friends?

Bianca Wulwick:
I didn't want bridesmaids. I guess, I was in my twenties and I had toxic friendships. And these two girls that I had invited decided to go as each other's plus one. When I was getting my makeup done and stuff, they were offended that I didn't go to brunch. What we told people was, if you want to come, you're paying your own way, like dinners at Buca di Beppo afterwards, and the wedding ceremony is here but it's informal. You're invited if you want to come, but there's no invite, there's no formal interpretation, there's no hotel block of rooms. We're not feeding you.

Leah Longbrake:
Yeah, exactly.

Bianca Wulwick:
Here's where we're saying, it's a Vegas weekend if you want to come and have fun. Instead, I think she really was thinking I would want bridesmaids and thinking I would want to do all that thing. I felt like in some ways this girl was showboating the fact that I was getting married and then she live streamed my wedding without my permission and posted photos of me in my dress without my permission. I think that's such a cardinal sin, you should never.

Leah Longbrake:
Absolutely.

Bianca Wulwick:
And that's the one thing I told her. I was like, "I would like to be able to approve that you're posting these things." Everyone else respected my wishes, but she did not. And that was really upsetting, so I kind of cut her out of my life after that and blocked her because also at their wedding table, at the reception table of whatever you call Buca di Beppo, a reception table, she talked shit about my husband to my in-laws because my husband didn't really like her. And if he doesn't like someone, he feels like I'm being disrespected, he can not be nice to them. So he was not really a fan of these two. They showed up late to the dinner anyway, drunk as hell. And it was overall, "So clearly you're not my friends and you're trying to make this day about you. I didn't include you in anything of the day because it was my day."

Leah Longbrake:
And you are already feeling that toxicity from them.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah, exactly. I was already feeling the toxicity and I wasn't letting it get to me and my best friend was like, "No, look at me. I'm the captain now. We're not having a bad day." No, let me handle them, you do you. So I had a great day getting ready with my friend, Brittany and my friend, Marcy.

Bianca Wulwick:
We got ready at a dry bar and then I got my hair done. I hated the way my hair looked, but we got my hair done at a dry bar, I got my makeup done, it's Sephora. Then they helped me into my dress because I had the little buttons and stuff. But the thing with that was I blocked her and she went out of her way to try to understand why I did. She messaged me, I blocked her on everything and then she messaged me on LinkedIn and I was just like, "Here's why I blocked you." And I gave her a laundry list of constructive criticism where I was just, "Just so you know, in the future, someone's wedding day and their partner and their relationship, just because you're jealous that you don't have that doesn't mean that you need to be so rude. I'm just telling you, these are the things that I just don't feel it's repairable. I'm going to side with my husband on this. He didn't do anything to you." So yeah. It's weird to look at photos. But thankfully, my best friend Marcy is an incredible photographer and thankfully, none of the wedding guests are in any of the photos.

Leah Longbrake:
Oh, that's so good. And he'll get a tip. Let our listeners learn from you. Let other couples learn from your experience. If there's even a remote hint of toxicity from somebody-

Bianca Wulwick:
Don't get photos with them.

Leah Longbrake:
Definitely don't get photos with them, but really think hard, long and hard if you really want them to be invited. I know there's some situations where it can be unavoidable.


Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah.

Leah Longbrake:
Just try not to invite them because you don't want this kind of drama.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah, exactly. I got married in Vegas at a little white chapel. It's very kitschy and I did a Cadillac drive-through wedding, but it's not really a Cadillac drive-through wedding, you sit in a dirty Cadillac. And because my husband was in his Navy whites, he's an officer and he's in his Navy whites, we just had to pay the difference on the Elvis. And I really wanted fat Elvis, but I got cocaine, unclipped, Chopin's tanned butt Elvis.

Leah Longbrake:
Oh my god!

Bianca Wulwick:
But regardless, if anyone wants to get married by an Elvis, I do suggest it. But if you do the drive-through, it's on hyper speed and it's a lot of fun. I had no idea what was going on, neither did Scott. We'd said we had vows, he skipped over them, he sang the song, 'Teddy Bear'. We didn't know what was going on with the wedding song.

Leah Longbrake:
Not the choice Scott made.

Bianca Wulwick:
Then he hands Scott Elvis glasses and Scott's putting them on my face and I'm like, "No, don't put them on." Now they're on my face and he's like, "Now we got to do Elvis poses for the camera." They provided a camera because if you're an officer or a military person and you wear your uniform, they ask if you give them marketing permission with the photos, if they can use them, then you get a free photography package or whatever. But the photographer was pushing Marcy out of the way so she barely was able to get any photos of the ceremony, but she was sneaky. So I had the really washed out photos from that chapel and then I have Marcy's photos. In my head, I had this classic Vegas image. So I saw a T-length dress and blue suede shoes, which I actually wore my shoes last night at my dog's birthday party, I don't know if you saw the photo.

Leah Longbrake:
I did, but I didn't know they were your wedding shoes.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah, they are my wedding shoes. They are the most comfortable and I've owned them before even so, because I bought those and I was like, "That'd be cute for a wedding dress one day." I bought them years ago and they're amazing shoes. I very seldom wear them because I love them so much.

Leah Longbrake:
I love that you've got blue suede shoes, though.

Bianca Wulwick:
I know. I need these. Because I held true, no one was into my Elvis when I was dating, no one was into wanting to get married by an Elvis and that was a deal breaker for me because I'm like, "If you don't find that funny, if you're not on board with that, then you're just not really someone I want to be with. I want to be someone who is spontaneous and goofy and gets it." So the vision was always a T-length dress because I'm five foot three and I'll be honest, I think wedding dresses are stunning and beautiful, but I wanted something that, I hate to say it, that perhaps I could wear again, even though it definitely is very maternal, they're very wedding-looking. I could recycle and reuse it.

Bianca Wulwick:
So that's kind of why I chose the dress I chose. I got so lucky with that dress. There's a bridal boutique in Longmont, Colorado where my parents live and there was a designer that was on 'Undercover Boss,' and I guess they went bankrupt. That bridal company that did that dress, it was a Cash and Carry. So I was trying on dresses and I could see where it could be T-length. I'll never forget bringing it into get altered. So Cash and Carry got the dress for 700 bucks.

Leah Longbrake:
Sweet!

Bianca Wulwick:
Scott bought me the dress, and the alterations were $600. And then the wedding itself was $300 plus tip, plus airfare, plus things. Altogether, we were probably under 5,000, is what we spent.

Leah Longbrake:
That's amazing.

Bianca Wulwick:
Right. Maybe a little more, maybe a little less.

Leah Longbrake:
How was the alterations person about altering the dress?

Bianca Wulwick:
Oh my gosh. Okay. I bring it in, it's got this long beautiful train and I'm like, "Yeah. So I'd like it to be T-length. Yeah, I want it to be T-length. I think it'd be really beautiful at T-length." And she's like, "I just don't understand." And I was like, "I'm paying you to cut it off." And then she's like, "Well, do you want to keep the fabric?" And I was like, "No, I just want T-length. Don't need it." "A lot of people will make trinkets for their bridesmaids." And I was like, "I'm getting married by, I don't know how to make it more clear to you. I'm getting married by an Elvis. I need it to be T-length."

Leah Longbrake:
Think more rockabilly. [crosstalk 00:22:05]

Bianca Wulwick:
Exactly. I think it pained her in her heart because it was a gorgeous train. But that's not me.

Leah Longbrake:
Right.

Bianca Wulwick:
That's never been me.

Leah Longbrake:
And you had a vision.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah. I had a vision, and I went to David's Bridal when I got engaged and I tried on their T-length dresses and I just looked like a sausage stuffed into a casing. It just didn't look good. So for your listeners, if you want something T-length, obviously buy something that you feel like could fit your vision and then pay to alter it because, at the end of the day, if you're not happy in the dress that you buy, because you want this certain look, they can alter it to do anything.

Leah Longbrake:
Yeah.

Bianca Wulwick:
So I was very happy with it and I've lost a ton of weight since then, so now the dress slips up easy. But Vegas makes you so bloated when you're eating food that I almost didn't fit in my wedding dress. I felt like I was, it was very not good.

Bianca Wulwick:
But yeah. I had this vision, so I had rose gold. I was on a rose gold kick at that point so I had a rose gold headpiece that was braided in. Looking back on it, I think I should have done an updo versus having my hair down. And then I had a very soft, rose kind of gold dewy makeup. It would look really good with really nice lashes. And then I was carrying a blue suede clutch and I had a rose gold pink fur.

Leah Longbrake:
Ah. Love it!

Bianca Wulwick:
And then my mother-in-law gave me pearls. It was the first pieces of jewelry that my father-in-law gave her. She gave me these pearls, so I had pearl earrings and pearl necklace. And then from my mom, my mom had given me my great-grandma's handkerchiefs so I had something borrowed. And blue, my blue suede shoes and then I had this really beautiful rose gold belt. That was tied in the back and I didn't do a veil or anything like that. I did the head piece and I fit my look for the most part.

Bianca Wulwick:
The thing I envisioned was on Fremont Street, which is old Vegas. They have so many lights everywhere and we got married at dusk. So as soon as we got to Fremont Street afterwards, the limo dropped us off at Fremont Street to take photos. All the lights were out and we were able to get this photo in front of, I think it's the Four Kings and he's kissing me like the kiss, that statue.

Leah Longbrake:
Yeah.

Bianca Wulwick:
And he's in his Navy whites and I'm in my dress and it's just like I always envisioned it and she got it.

Leah Longbrake:
That's amazing.

Bianca Wulwick:
So it's on a canvas in my bedroom. It's my phone background to this day. I think I was on a podcast for military spouses and they said, "Send me your wedding photo." It's always the one I send. So yeah. Overall, I got the things I wanted. They maybe weren't 100% what I wanted. Not the right Elvis. We're not driving this Cadillac, we're just sitting in it. "Why are you putting these glasses on me?" But I wouldn't change a thing about it because, at the end of the day, it was just what I had always wanted. It just executed in a different way.

Leah Longbrake:
And it makes a fantastic story.

Bianca Wulwick:
Right.


Leah Longbrake:
So, Bianca, I'm so glad you got to do your Vegas dream. When I was in high school, friends of mine actually thought I would end up eloping because I was that girl. I've always been curious, what it would be like to elope to Vegas and have a Vegas wedding? So for those that are curious about actually doing this, what was the process actually like? Did you have to get a license there the day of, a few days before? What are the steps?

Bianca Wulwick:
I can tell you the steps, but keep in mind, I was already married. So technically, it was a vow renewal. Either have certificate in hand or you have to wake up, go to the courthouse. The courthouse is open 24/7, so you can go get your marriage license there, but my bigger suggestion is you can just do it, have the ceremony, and then go back and get the official certificate and sign it, or do it right before you go and be legally married beforehand, just so you can take that guesswork out. Then you have to obviously book the chapel and stuff. Book whatever chapel you want to do, whether you're in a hotel and you want to use their chapel, or you have this vision and this dream.

Bianca Wulwick:
Now if people are coming with you, I would always suggest doing a block of hotel rooms or whatever. But I like the way I did it, where it's pay your own way, come if you want, here's where we're eating, here's what we're doing. Night one, we're going to have a drink here and do your own thing. It's Vegas!

Leah Longbrake:
Right.

Bianca Wulwick:
There's no schedule. Just make sure you see the wedding.

Leah Longbrake:
And it will save you a lot of money.

Bianca Wulwick:
Right. A lot of money. If you're going to use one of these chapels and say, you want something kitschy or whatever, I guess request the Elvis that you want, I didn't know that I would have to. Other things to consider is making sure that the chapel picks you. So the chapel that we chose, it picked us up from the airport and also dropped us off at the airport, which was very nice of them.

Leah Longbrake:
Oh wow.

Bianca Wulwick:
They also picked us up before the wedding and then they drove us to where we wanted to go after the wedding, so that was pretty cool, too. It was a little white chapel and they also threw in flowers into the package, which were all filler flowers so wouldn't suggest that. I would suggest getting your own bouquet, maybe even a fake one if you really want flowers. I was kind of embarrassed, I had to have them in many of my photos. But what Vegas is designed to do is pump out weddings, so if that's the vibe you're going for, anything you choose is a lot of fun.

Bianca Wulwick:
It's really up to you how you want to do it. Transporting my dress, I carried it on. They gave me a bag way too big for the garment, so that was kind of hard. We had to stuff it in Scott's garment bag and I was like, "Oh no, it's going to get creased. Oh no." But it worked out.

Bianca Wulwick:
Make sure you have any of your hair and your makeup appointments or your photographer booked, or maybe you fly your photographer out. You can find Vegas photographers, they're just going to charge two times the price.

Leah Longbrake:
Right.

Bianca Wulwick:
And yeah. Tell your people, tell your friends not to live stream it. That's the other advice.

Leah Longbrake:
Yeah. That's very key. That's just so rude.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah. And then the other thing I will say to you is, it's pretty much the only place you can book a table for 20 people without them batting an eye is Buca di Beppo at Excalibur, which is an Italian restaurant. And then my other advice is, if you're going to go out afterwards, which is what we did, have a second dress option, which I did. I changed into a more fun, free people dress with really fun sleeves. It's very mod sixties style.

Bianca Wulwick:
And I bought it on clearance, it's one of my favorite dresses and anytime I get to wear it, I'm always happy it. I wore that, and even wearing that, people were like, "Oh, congratulations, did you just get married?" I was like, "What?" Because I had my full makeup on.

Leah Longbrake:
You had the glow. You had the glow about you.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah. Yeah. So I will say if you have a really large party, they actually make you book banquet style, so you got to be cognizant of that. Make sure if there's any kind of reception thing that you are aware that there's probably going to be an upcharge, unless you go to Buca di Beppo. Buca di Beppo is great because they sent a photographer around, the Vegas one. They took a photo of us and it was our first photo as a married couple, so to speak, that was actually published and we bought the photo and it still sits in my hallway right now. It's one of my favorite photos.

Leah Longbrake:
Oh, that's really cool.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yeah.

Leah Longbrake:
Well, those are awesome tips to know if any of us decide to go elope or have a vow renewal, which is a great idea, as well. Last question for you, Bianca. What is your all-time favorite wedding movie or movie that features a wedding?

Bianca Wulwick:
Definitely 'The Wedding Singer,' because I feel Julia Guglia in my bones. But really, I like that one because it shows the dark side and the campy side of weddings, albeit in the eighties. I just think it's a really good movie. I don't know. Anytime it comes on, I love it. And then the final scene with Billy Idol, I just really love it. So I would say that one.

Leah Longbrake:
No, that's such a good one. That one's definitely in my top 10, maybe even top five. I think it's become a modern classic, if you will.

Bianca Wulwick:
Yes.

Leah Longbrake:
Everything about it is perfect. And you actually have a Drew Barrymore connection.

Bianca Wulwick:
I do, I do. I was on the Drew Barrymore Show as in her virtual audience and I have a very cute King Charles Spaniel and he was sitting in my lap and then when they-

Leah Longbrake:
Whose name is Bourdain, by the way, which is such a great name.

Bianca Wulwick:
And he just had his first birthday party yesterday. When I say party, I mean, my husband and I are not planning to have children. So he's our kid and my husband's currently deployed. I threw him a birthday party because he shares a birthday with the queen so it was a royalty-themed birthday party and everyone brought him presents. I have more things for him than I know what to do with. I'm like, "Oh my gosh, everyone's spoiled you. You're already spoiled." So he's sitting in my lap and I'm in the virtual audience and the producers are going through the virtual audience and the producers are like, "Hi, I'm just getting to know everyone."

Bianca Wulwick:
Well, my husband's deployed. It was like, "Do you have a question for Drew for Christmas?" My question, at the time I was struggling with COVID, "Do I go? Do I go visit them or not? What should I get them?" Because my in-laws were handling a lot last year with my nephews and stuff. So they chose me to be the only person because I had a deployed spouse and because I had a question that they could pay for. So I asked a question, she was like, "Who's this dog?" It's very sweet and I kept it together until they brought me back on screen with Ross Matthews. I love Drew, but Ross Matthews. I squeed And then I was like, "Oh, shoot! Drew, I love you, too," because I feel like Drew and I are like the same person a lot of the time.

Leah Longbrake:
I can totally see it.

Bianca Wulwick:
Right. I feel like she and I would be best friends, for sure. Then they're like, "Yeah, we've been thinking about your question of what to get your in-laws for the holidays." And then they gave me $500. I burst into tears and she was like, "Your in-laws are so lucky to have you as a daughter." That's like so thoughtful and caring and then I just keep crying. And yeah. Drew Barrymore gave me $500.

Leah Longbrake:
It's amazing. I choked up watching the video, which is available on YouTube, on the Drew Barrymore Show. I think it's called, "Drew and A?"

Bianca Wulwick:
"Drew and A," and if you're looking for it, you just type in Drew Gets Emotional. And that's the first video that pops up.

Leah Longbrake:
You can't not get emotional over that video. And I think there needs to be more wedding movies with Drew because 'Wedding Singer.' Now I'm thinking about all the eighties fashions in it.

Bianca Wulwick:
Right.

Leah Longbrake:
And her dress at the end, she had the gloves and the daisies, they're very yellow. It's just awesome.

Bianca Wulwick:
I know. I love it.

Leah Longbrake:
So Bianca, how can we get more information on you and your podcast, Please Don't Kick Me Out.

Bianca Wulwick:
Thank you, it's been absolutely a pleasure.


Bianca Wulwick:
You can follow my podcast at Please Don't Kick Me Out on Instagram. You can follow me, my personal Instagram is @biancakezz, like beyond cakes. I just thought it was cute, but it's really weird for people to pronounce. There's that, I know it'll be in the description. Or you can go to, if my podcast sounds interesting, it's something that maybe you want to be a guest, I always say that there's no boring person, there's no boring stories, you can go to my website www.pleasedontkickmeout.com. And just a small plug for the fact that I have merchandise that, if you love nineties and you love nineties nostalgia, my logo is very nineties.

Leah Longbrake:
Yes.

Bianca Wulwick:
And I just got one of everything, got delivered to me yesterday and I'm obsessed with it. So yeah, check me out. Look at my merch, look at my previous guests, shoot me a line. That's where you can find me.

Leah Longbrake:
Thank you, too, Bianca. Every person has a story and thank you for being on today and sharing yours.

Bianca Wulwick:
Thank you so much. It was a pleasure.

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